Imagens das páginas
PDF
ePub

and if sad, she is certainly thinking on himself. In short, there is no Word or Gesture so insignificant, but it gives him new Hints, feeds his Safpicions, and furnishes him with fresh Matters of Discovery: So that if we consider the Effects of this passion, one would rather think it proceeded from an inveterate Hatred than an excessive Love ; for certainly none can meet with more Disquietude and Uneasiness than a suspected Wife, if we except the jealous Husband.

BUT the great Unhappiness of this passion is, that it naturally tends to alienate the Affection which it is so solicitous to engross; and that for these two Reasons, because it lays too great a Constraint on the Words and Actions of the suspected Person, and at the same time shews you have no honourable Opinion of her; both of which are strong Motives to Aversion.

NOR is this the worst Effect of Jealousy ; for it often draws after it a more fatal Train of Consequences, and makes the Person you suspect, guilty of the very Crimes you are so much afraid of. It is very natural for such who are treated ill and upbraided falsly, to find out an intimate Friend that will hear their Complaints, con- * dole their Sufferings, and endeavour to footh and assuage : their secret Resentments. Besides, Jealousy puts a Woman often in mind of an ill Thing that she would not otherwise perhaps have thought of, and fills her Imagination with such an unlucky Idea, as in time grows fami. liar; excites Desire, and loses all the Shame and Horror which might at first attend it. Nor is it a Wonder if she who suffers wrongfully in a Man's Opinion of her, and has therefore nothing to forfeit in his Efteem, resolves to give him reason for his Suspicions, and to enjoy the, Pleasure of the Crime, since she must undergo the Ignominy. Such probably were the Confiderations that directed the wife Man in his Advice to Husbands ; Be not jealous over the Wife of thy Bofam, and teach her not an. evil Lelon against thy self. Ecclus.

AND here among the other Torments which this Passion produces, we may usually observe that none are greater Mourners than jealous Men, when the Person who provoked their Jealousy is taken from them. Then it is that their Love breaks out furiously, and throws

A 5

off

of all the Mixtures of Suspicion which choked and Emothered it before. The beautiful Parts of the Chatacter rise uppermost in the Jealous Husband's Memory, and upbraid him with the ill Usage of fo divine a Creature as was once in his Possession ; whilst all the little Imperfections that were before so uneasy to him, wear off from his Remembrance, and shew themselves no more.

WE may see by what has been said, that Jealousy takes the deepest Root in Men of amorous Dispositions ; and of these we may find three Kinds who are most over-run with it.

THE First are those who are conscious to themselves of an Infirmity, whether it be Weakness, Old Age, Deformity, Ignorance, or the like. These Man are so well acquainted with the unamiable Part of themselves, that they have not the Confidence to think they are really beloved ; and are so distruftful of their own Merits, that all Fondness towards them puts them out of Countenance, and looks like a Jest upon their persons. They grow suspicious on their first looking in a Glass, and are ftung with Jealousy at the fight of a Wrinkle. A handsom Fellow immediately alarms them, and every thing that looks young or gay turns their Thoughts upon their Wives.

A Second Sort of Men, who are most liable to this Paso Ron, are those of cunning, wary, and distrustful Tempers. It is a Fault very justly found in Histories composed by Politicians, that they leave nothing to Chance or Humour, but are still for deriving every Action from fome Plot and Contrivance, for drawing up a perpetual Scheme of Causes and Events, and preserving a conitant Corre. fpondence between the Camp and the Council-Table. And thus it happens in the Affairs of Love with Men of 100 refined a Thought. They put a Construction on a Look, and find out a Design in a Smile; they give new Senses and Significations to Words and Actions ; and are ever tormenting themselves with Fancies of their own paisirg: They generally act in a Disguise themselves, and therefore mistake all outward Shows and Appearances for Hypocrify in others ; so that I believe no Men fee less of the Truth and Reality of Things, than these great Re

finers

finers upon Incidents, who are so wonderfully subtle and over-wise in their Conceptions.

NOW what these Men fanfy they know of Women by Reflexion, your lewd and vicious Men believe they have learned by Experience. They have seen the poor Husband fo misled by Tricks and Artifices, and in the midst of his Inquiries so loft and bewilderd in a crooked Intrigue, that they still suspect an Under-Plot in every female Action ; and especially where they see any Refeme blance in the Behaviour of two Persons, are apt to fansy it proceeds from the fame Design in both. These Men therefore bear hard upon the suspected Party, pursue hers close through all her Turnings and Windings, and are too well acquainted with the Chace, to be flung off by any false Steps or Doubles : Besides, their Acquaintance and Conversation has lain wholly among the vicious Part of Womankind, and therefore it is no wonder they cenfure all alike, and look upon the whole Sex as a Species of Impostors. But if, notwithstanding their private Experience, they can get over these Prejudices, and entertain a favourable Opinion of some Women; yet their own loose Desires will itir up new Suspicions from another Side, and make them believe all Men subject to the same Inçli. nations with themselves.

WHETHER these or other Motives are most predominant, we learn from the modern Histories of America, as well as from our own Experience in this part of the World, that Jealousy is no Northern Passion, but rages molt in those Nations that lie nearest the Influence of the Sun. It is a Misfortune for a Woman to be born betwen the Tropicks'; for there lie the hottest Regions of Jealousy, which as you come Northward cools all along with the Climate, till you scarce meet with any thing like it in the Polar Circle. Our own Nation is very temperately fituated in this respect; and if we meet with fome few disordered with the Violence of this passion, they are not the proper Growth of our Country, but :c many Degrees ncarer the Sun in their Conftitutions than in their Climate.

AFTER this frightful Account of Jealousy, and the Persons who are moit subject to it, it will be but fair to Thew by what means the Pastion may be best allay'd, and

thofc

· those who are poffeffed with it set at Ease. Other Faults

indeed are not under the Wife's Jurisdiction, and should, if possible, escape her Observation ; but Jealousy calls, upon her particularly for its Cure, and deserves all her Art and Application in the Attempt : Besides, she has this for her Encouragement, that her Endeavours will be al-. ways pleasing, and that she will still find the Affection of her Husband rising towards her in Proportion as his Doubts and Suspicions vanish ; for, as we have seen all along, there is so great a Mixture of Love in Jealousy as is well worth the separating. But this shall be the Subject of another Paper. *

No 171. Saturday, September 15.

: "Credula res amor eft.

Ovid. Met. : UJAVING in my Yesterday's Paper discovered the H N ature of Jealousy, and pointed out the Persons

who are most subject to it, I must here apply my self to my fair Correspondents, who desire to live well with a jealous. Husband, and to ease his Mind of its unjust Suspicions.

THE first Rule I shall propose to be observed is, that you never seem to dislike in another what the Jealous Man is himself guilty of, or to admire any thing in which he himself does not excel. A jealous Man is very quick in his Applications, he knows how to find a double Edge ilin Invective, and to draw a Satire on himself out of a Parcgyrick on another. He does not trouble himself to consider the Person, but to direct the Character ; and is fecretly pleased or confounded as he finds more or less of himself in it. The Commendation of any thing in another, stirs up his Jealousy, as it shews you have a Value for others, besides himself; but the Cominendation of that which he himself wants, inflames him more, as it thews that in fome Respects you prefer others before him..

Jealousy

Jealousy is admirably described in this View by Horace in his Ode to Lydia.

Quum tu, Lydia, Telephi ..

Gervicem rofeam, & cerea Telephi
Laudas brachia, ve meum

Fervens difficili bile tumet jecur : :
Tunc nec mens mihi, nec color

Certâ fede manet; humor & in genas
Furtim labitur, arguens on
Quâm lentis penitus macerer ignibus.

When Telephus his youthful Charms,
His rofy Neck and winding Arms,
With endless Rapture you recite,
And in the pleasing Name delight ;
My Heart, inflam'd by jealous Heats,
With numberless Refentments beats;
From my pale Cheek the Colour flies,
And all the Man within me dies : '.
By Turns my hidden Grief appears .
In rising sighs and falling Tears,
That new too well the warm Defires,
The filent, Now, consuming Fires,
Which on my inmoft Vitals prey,
And melt my very Soul away....

THE Jealous Man is not indeed angry if you dislike another : but if you find those Faults which are to be found in his own Character, you discover not only your Dislike of another, but of himself. In short, he is so de firous of engrossing all your Love, that he is grieved at the want of any Charm, which he believes has Power to raise it ; and if he finds by your Censures on others, that he is not so agreeable in your Opinion as he might be, he naturally concludes you could love him better if he had other Qualifications, and that by Consequence your Affection does not rife so high as he thinks it ought. If therefore his Temper be grave or sullen, you must not be too much pleased with a Jest, or transported with any thing that is gay and diverting. If his Beauty be none of the best, you must be a professed Admirer of Prudence,

« AnteriorContinuar »