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IV. Let thy kindred and allies be welcome to thy house and table. Grace them with thy countenance, and farther them in all honest actions ; for, by this means, thou-shalt so double the band of nature, as thou shalt find them so many advocates to plead an apology for thee behind thy back. But shake off those glow-worms, I mean parasites and sycophants, who will feed and fawn upon thee in the summer of prosperity ; but, in an adverse storm, they will shelter thee no more than an arbour in winter.
V. Beware of suretyship for thy best friends. He that payeth another man's debt seeketh his own decay. But if thou canst not otherwise choose, rather lend thy money thyself upon good bonds, although thou borrow it. So shalt thou secure thyself, and pleasure thy friend. Neither borrow money of a neighbour or a friend, but of a stranger; where, paying for it, thou shalt hear no more of it. Otherwise thou shalt eclipse thy credit, lose thy freedom, and yet pay as dear as to another. But in borrowing of money be precious of thy word; for he that hath care of keeping days of payment is lord of another man's purse.
VL. Undertake no suit against a poor man with receiving* much wrong; for, besides that thou makest him thy compeer, it is a base conquest to triumph where there is small resistance. Neither attempt law against any man before thou be fully resolved that thou hast right on thy side; and then spare not for either money or pains : for a cause or two so followed and obtained will free thee from suits a great part of thy life.
VII. Be sure to keep some great man thy friend, but trouble him not for trifles. Compliment him often with many, yet srnall gifts, and of little charge. And if thou hast cause to bestow any great gratuity, let it be something which may be daily in sight: otherwise, in this ambitious age, thou shalt remain like a hop without a pole; live
in obscurity, and be made a foot-ball for every insulting companion to spurn at.
VIII. Towards thy superiors be humble, yet generous.* With thine equals familiar, yet respective. Towards thine inferiors show much humanity, and some familiarity: as to bow the body, stretch forth the hand, and to uncover the head; with such like popular compliments. The first prepares thy way to advancement,--the second makes thee known for a man well bred,—the third gains a good report; which, once got, is easily kept. For right humanity takes such deep root in the minds of the multitude, as they are more easily gained by unprofitable curtesies than by churlish benefits. Yet I advise thee not to affect, or neglect, popularity too much. Seek not to be Essex : shun to be Raleigh.t
IX. Trust not any man with thy life, credit, or estate. For it is mere folly for a man to enthral himself to his friend, as though, occasion being offered, he should not dare to become an enemy.
X. Be not scurrilous in conversation, nor satirical in thy jests. The one will make thee unwelcome to all company; the other pull on quarrels, and get the hatred of thy best friends. For suspicious jests, when any of them savour of truth, leave a bitterness in the minds of those which are touched. And, albeit I have already pointed at this inclusively, yet I think it necessary to leave it to thee as a special caution ; because I have seen many so prone to quip and girds, as they would rather lose their friend than their jest. And if perchance their boiling brain yield a quaint scoff, they will travel to be delivered of it as a woman with child. These nimble fancies are but the froth of wit."
*i. e. Not mean. † Essex was the idol of the people ; his rival, Raleigh, their aversion, till his undeserved misfortunes attracted their compassion, and his heroism their applause. | Mock and jibe.
*i. e. Though you receive.
BY MRS. INCHBALD.
“ When my occasions took me into France, towards the close of the late reign, the clergy, under all their forms, engaged a considerable part of my curiosity.
“ They seemed to me beyond the clerical character, liberal and cpen; with the hearts of gentlemen, and men of honour. They seemed to me rather a superior class of men, amongst whom you would not be surprised to find a Fenelon."
GEO, DEARBORN, PUBLISHER.
A SIMPLE STORY.
BY MRS. INCHBALD.
sunshine of fortune ;-in the cold nipping frost of
disappointment, sickness, or connubial strife, they DORRIFORTH, bred at St. Omer's in all the scho- will forsake the house of care, although the very lastic rigour of that college, was, by education and fabric which they may have themselves erected.” the solemn vows of his order, a Roman Catholic Here the excruciating anguish of the father overpriest : but, nicely discriminating between the phi- came that of the dying man. losophical and the superstitious part of that cha- “In the moment of desertion,” continued he, racter, he adopted the former only, and possessed “which I now picture to myself, where will my qualities not unworthy of the first professors of child find comfort? That heavenly aid which reChristianity. Every virtue which it was his vo- ligion provides, and which now, amidst these agocation to preach, it was his care to practise ; nizing tortures, cheers with humble hope my afwas he in the class of those of the religious, who, flicted soul; that she will be denied." by secluding themselves from the world, fly from It is in this place proper to remark, that Mr. the merit they might acquire in reforrning man- Milner was a member of the church of Rome, but kind : he refused to shelter himself from the temp- on his marriage with a lady of Protestant tenets, tations of the layman by the walls of a cloister ; they mutually agreed their sons should be educatbut sought for, and found that shelter within the ed in the religious opinion of their father, and their centre of London, where he dwelt, in his own pru- daughters in that of their mother. One child only dence, justice, fortitude, and temperance.
was the result of their union; the child whose future He was about thirty, and had lived in the metro- welfare now occupied the anxious thoughts of her polis near five years, when a gentleman, above expiring father. From him the care of her educahis own age, but with whom he had in his youth tion had been withheld, as he kept inviolate his procontracted a sincere friendship, died, and left him mise to her departed mother on the article of rethe sole guardian of his daughter, who was then ligion, and therefore consigned his daughter to a eighteen.
boarding school for Protestants, whence she reThe deceased Mr. Milner, on his approaching turned with merely such ideas of piety as ladies of dissolution, perfectly sensible of his state, thus fashion, at herage, mostly imbibe. Her little heart, reasoned with himself before he made the nomi- employed in all the endless pursuits of personal nation :-“I have formed no intimate friendship accomplishments, had left her mind without one during my whole life, except one—I can be said ornament, except such as nature gave; and even to know the heart of no man, except the heart of they were not wholly preserved from the ravages Dorriforth. After knowing his, I never sought made by its rival, Art. acquaintance with another—I did not wish to les- While her father was in health he beheld, with sen the exalted estimation of human nature which extreme delight, his accomplished daughter, withhe had inspired. In this moment of trembling ap- out one fault which taste or elegance could have prehension for every thought which darts across imputed to her ; nor ever inquired what might be my mind, and more for every action which soon I her other failings. But, cast on a bed of sickness, must be called to answer for; all worldly views and upon the point of leaving her to her fate, those here thrown aside, I act as if that tribunal, before failings at once rushed on his thought and all the which I every moment expect to appear, were now pride, the fond enjoyment he had taken in beholdsitting in judgment upon my purpose. The care ing her open the ball, or delight her hearers with of an only child is the great charge which in this her wit or song, escaped his remembrance; or, not tremendous crisis I have to execute. These earth- escaping it, were lamented with a sigh of compasly affections that bind me to her by custom, sym. sion, or a contemptuous frown at such frivoloug pathy, or what I fondly call parental love, would qualifications. direct me to consult her present happiness, and “ Something essential,” said he to himself, leave her to the care of those whom she thinks her “ must be considered something to prepare her dearest friends; but they are friends only in the for an hour like this. Can I then leave her to the