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the qualifications which influence the probability of connubial comfort, a reasonable similarity of disposition between the two parties is one of especial moment. Where Itrong affection prevails, a spirit of accommodation will prevail also. But it is not desirable that the spirit of accommodation should be subjected to rigorous or very frequent experiments. Great disparity in
age between a husband and a wife, or a wide difference in rank antecedently to marriage, is, on this account, liable to be productive of difquietude. The sprightliness of youth feems levity, and the fobriety of maturer years to be tinctured with moroseness, when closely contrasted. A sudden introduction to affluence, a sudden and great elevation in the scale of society, are apt to intoxicate; and a sudden reduction in outward appearance to be felt as degrading. Instances, however, are not very rare in which the force of affection, of good sense, and of good principles, shews itself permanently superior to the influence of causes, which,
ON THE DUTIES OF MATRIMONIAL
Mong the most important of the duties peculiar to the situation of a married woman, are to be placed those arising from the influence which she will naturally posfefs over the conduct and character of her husband. If it be scarcely possible for two persons connected by the ties of common friendship, to live constantly together, or even habitually to pass much time in the society of each other, without gradually approaching nearer and nearer in their sentiments and habits; still less probable is it, that from the closest and most attractive of all bands of union a similar effect should not be the result. The effect will be
experienced by both parties, and perhaps in an
equal degree. But if it be felt by one in a greater degree than by the other, it is likely to be thus felt by the husband. In female manners inspired by affection, and bearing at once the stamp of modesty and of good sense, example operates with a captivating force which few bosoms can resist. When the heart is won, the judgement is easily persuaded. It waits not for the flow process of argument to prove that to be right, which it already thinks too amiable to be wrong. To the fascinating charms of female virtue, when adorned by its highest embellishment, diffidence, the Scriptures themselves bear testimony. St. Peter, addressing himself to married women, fome of whom, in those days, had been converted to the Christian religion, while their husbands remained yet in idolatry, speaks in the following
“ Likewise, ye wives, be in sub“ jection to your own husbands; that if
any obey not the word, they also, without the word, may be won by the con“ versation of the wives; while they behold
to minds less happily attempered, and less under the guidance of religious motives, prove sources of anxiety and vexation.
To delude a young man by encouraging his attentions for the pleasure of exhibiting him as a conquest, for the purpose of exciting the assiduities of another person, or from, any motive except the impulse of mutual regard, is a proceeding too plainly repugnant to justice, and to delicacy of sentiment, to require much obfervation. On such subjects, even inadvertence is highly culpable. What, then, is the guilt of her, who deliberately raises hopes which the is resolved not to fulfil!
There remains yet another caution relating to the present subject, which
appears worthy of being suggested. A young woman, unbiassed by interested motives, iş sometimes led to contract a matrimonial engagement without suspecting that the perhaps does not entertain for her intended
husband the warm and rooted affection necessary for the conservation of connubial happiness. She beholds him with general approbation : she is conscious that there is no other person whom she prefers to him: she receives lively pleasure from his attentions: and the imagines that she loves him with tenderness and ardour. Yet it is very possible that she may be unacquainted with the real state of her heart. Thoughtless inexperience, gentleness of difpofition, the quick susceptibility of early youth, and chiefly perhaps the complacency which all persons, whose affections are not pre-occupied, feel towards those who distinguish them by particular proofs of regard, may have excited an indistinct partiality which she mistakes for rivetted attachment. Many an unhappy wife has discovered the mistake too late.